Instead of taking my normal path of least resistance (i.e. antibiotics and physio), my body forced me to take an enlightened journey towards holistic health and wellbeing. I discovered meditation, yoga, got a health coach, changed my diet and took numerous blood tests. My Type A coming out, I visited my doctor, spoke to friends who had recently graduated from medicine, listened to podcasts, read up about psychology and sociology - any knowledge I could get my hands on. Through this process, I have rewired my brain; eliminated my negative thought patterns, and completely changed my beliefs, perspectives and how I see the world. In the 18 months since, I haven’t had a sinus infection, injury and don't experience the symptoms of my allergies. The most important lesson I learnt from this experience is “the preciousness of time.” I mean time where we are conscious to our decisions and live in line with our human values, healthy and happy. After experiencing this new way of life, I want nothing more than to spread this message to help others realise the essence of time and holistic living, before it's too late.
One level deeper, I realised that what had been driving my ambition for so long was my loneliness as a child, my lack of sense of belonging and identity, observing family conflict and the people around me suffering, including someone close to me attempting suicide. Coming from a family of 5, my sisters are 9 and 10 years older than me and I’ve felt that generational gap. As the only boy and the youngest, I was “mama’s boy” and she put all her love and affection into me. In primary school, my parents started a business which caused a lot of strain on their relationship. I was present to conflict and felt suppression of emotions and love between family members. As a young boy, I just observed unaware of the impact it was having on me. But as someone who cares deeply, I felt and carried the suffering of others. I remember moments sitting alone feeling isolated, crying and thinking “What if I wasn’t here? Would anyone miss me?”
Moving into high school, my mum holding onto love tried to keep me close but as a teenager, I was looking for space and pushed away. Her love became nagging and I began to ignore her. At family gatherings, I was never really present, always on my phone wanting to be with my friends. I never fought with my girlfriend and I felt at home with her family in a household filled with fun and laughter. This was something that I never felt at home. Reflecting, I now realise I didn’t experience an emotional love connection with my mum for a decade and I buried this pain. As a young boy close with the feminine touch of my mother, this has caused me great suffering.
Entering university opened my eyes to a new environment, experiences and people. I made new friends, however felt an internal conflict with my friendship groups. With my high school friends, I was immersed in a hyper-masculine culture of partying, drinking and ego. With my university friends, I felt more at ease able to have more intellectual conversations, however they seemed to be more transfixed on money. My mum has a strong energy with money due to her past, which has caused me to prioritise human connection and love over money. Feeling a lack of sense of belonging and yearning for a deep sense of connection, I masked my true self to fit in.
Caring deeply for people, I don’t want any young person, family member, friend or person to experience the unconscious suffering I did for so long. I want to spread the message of time where we are conscious to our decisions and spend our time on the things that truly matter to us - our human values. For me, this means dedicating my time to my 5 core values; financial stability, meaningful relationships and connection, harmony and wellbeing, authenticity and personal growth and my spirituality/fire (leading, mentoring, coaching and driving social impact). Each year, I set ~50 goals across the 5 extraordinary areas of my life. It's not about achieving the goals but the process of setting them, which allows me to live in the present in line with my values. I aim to create these 5 areas in my life every week.
With The Timekeeper as my tool, I want to create a world where people live quality time; mindfully, purposefully and under the umbrella of #MomentsWellSpent. For me, mindfulness is our gateway to the present moment, true authentic purpose comes through introspection of our suffering and #MomentsWellSpent is about doing what we love in the company of family and friends. As a facilitator, I have observed a common theme in humans. We are all suffering, and from that place of suffering we share similar core values and all have a desire to help humanity. I live by a quote, "I teach one thing and one only: that is, suffering and the end of suffering" - Bhudda. I am inspired to heighten human consciousness and connection to help people get out of their own way, break the shackles of fear, ego and unconscious suffering so people can wave their flag of personal freedom and make their impact on the world. With a deep sense of empathy for every being, I choose love over fear, always.
“I create spaces where people can connect and be accepted for who they are.”